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Paul Gosselin
Actor | Writer | Producer
No Reciprocation Necessary
Welcome to my essay corner, a collection of personal reflections and stories I can’t shake. These aren’t hot takes or diary entries, but curated thoughts about caregiving, queerness, family, grief and the odd beauty of being human. New posts land every other Tuesday (or close enough).
Read, relate, roll your eyes, but remember, no need to respond. -- No reciprocation necessary.
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“Backlight” - The Final Year, Part 5
Terrell Tilford pen-pal magic, an indestructible camcorder, and a candlestick homage to Nadine Cooper. A look at Misguided: Episode 21 — "The Accident"
6 days ago
“Backlight” - The Final Year, Part 4
Kim Zimmer's "commercial sex," Poshmark handcuff mishaps, and closing the door on Paul and Kyle. A look at Misguided: Episode 20 — "The Reunion"
Sep 7
“Backlight” - The Final Year, Part 3
Undisclosed locations, Y&R wardrobe steals, and a dark twist in Paul's bedroom. A look at Misguided: Episode 19 — "The Crush"
Aug 31
"Backlight" - The Final Year, Part 2
High school timelines, rewriting the past, and getting a drink thrown in my face by soap royalty. A look at Misguided: Episode 18 — "The Chemistry"
Aug 24
"Backlight" - The Final Year, Part 1
Sitting in awe as the final season begins, and turning heartbreak into art. A look at Misguided: Episode 17 - "The Comeback"
Aug 17
A Bold, New Side Quest
I’m heading back to 1987, and relearning the joy of the story.
Jun 15
Personal Inventory
As one chapter closes and others quietly take shape, I pause to take inventory. This reflection explores finishing long-term work, the unease that follows completion, and the choice to stay present without rushing toward whatever comes next.
Jan 7
Behind the Harness & Sash: Recent Events
Taking stock of a busy fall as Mr. CMEN Leather, this entry dives into local LA competitions, Palm Springs Pride, and the importance of pacing yourself while deepening community connections.
Nov 23, 2025
Not The Whole Story
Trying to pass my life off as “same old, same old” doesn’t hold up anymore. Somewhere between school pickup and stirring mac and cheese, I realized I’ve built a life that’s fuller, louder, and more mine than I’ve let myself admit.
Nov 15, 2025
Behind the Harness & Sash - Masks & Meaning
Stepping into my title year means overcoming old shyness and showing up authentically. From honoring my soap-opera roots and designing my official title pin, to embracing every side of myself in a new photo shoot.
Sep 29, 2025
The Naked Truth, part 1
In search of community, I found my way from NYC bars to L.A.’s Bullet Bar, and eventually onto the stage at Mr. CMEN Leather. What began with pride and arrogance ended in heartbreak, but it was the start of something bigger.
Aug 30, 2025
Almost Enough
Running on little sleep and big dreams, I reflect on ambition, burnout, and the quiet grace of showing up imperfectly. Maybe I didn’t hit every goal, but maybe that’s exactly the point.
Aug 2, 2025
The Goodbye I Didn't Write
As production begins on the final season of Misguided, I reflect on grief, legacy, and the unexpected goodbye I never wanted to write. This piece honors Jackie Zeman, her impact on the series, and the love we carry forward in her absence.
Jul 13, 2025
Back Again, Naturally
From DeadJournal to Tumblr to today, I’m returning to my blogging roots with No Reciprocation Necessary. This first post dives into my early days of oversharing, secret aliases, and soap fandom—and why I’m writing again, with heart and zero expectations.
Jun 24, 2025
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